Learning Italian… importante ma non facile

For my experience abroad I really wanted to learn some Italian before so I would be confident enough to speak. Let’s say I learnt some but I am still pretty afraid to talk. It is actually quite funny that I study adult education and know exactly what is happening and where my obstacles are, but still hard to get over them.

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Corona Part II

The last one and a half week Corona was the main topic on different levels. Right now University stays closed till March 15th but they install online classes, Events are banned till April 3rd. I needed to get out of Bologna (and especially my accommodation), so I am in Rome this week.

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Patrick Libero! Libero Subito!

One week after I arrived in Bologna I saw messages in different groups, that a student from Bologna was arrested in Egypt because of being an activist. First I thought, “wow this must be popular guy that all this groups know him” but shortly after that I was surprised about the solidarity of the whole city…

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My first Solo

The first cut is the deepest… which can also be true while traveling. My first solotrip is now many years ago and to be honest, I don’t remember it as a good one. But I learnt a lot about what can go wrong and where some of my priorities are, so after that I planned differently and now I am much happier with traveling alone. So today I tell you about the mistakes I made and how I learnt from them. Please keep in mind, whenever you do something: mistakes are okay and help you to make it better next time. Don’t let them take away your spirit.

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Preparations

Before I could start my journey, I needed to take some preparations. The application was mostly paperwork, an english exam and a motivation letter. They told me that it should be a bit more than “My grandma lives there and I like Italian food”. Like e.g. if there is a special course offer only existing there. So I started to read about the University in Bologna and was quite amazed. Not only it is the oldest in Europe, but also the first one, who allowed women to study from the start. And in the course unit catalog I found courses who are much more specific than the courses at home. So it was quite easy to write that letter.

After applying I didn’t had to wait too long. I got a positive answer, but still so much time to go! Now I needed to think about what to do with my job, my flat, which courses I have to take, what insurances I need to take and a lot of other paperwork. And of course I need a place to stay, flights, and to find out how to make some extra money during my time. I was lucky to know about the approval nearly a year in advance, so I was able to save some money and even with a lot of stress on work, I could manage to take care of all the other questions I had.

It is really a good thing to be over 30 and having a job. Even it is only part-time, I was able to save some money for the journey. In my 20s I always had trouble keeping my money together, because I went out much more and buy a lot of useless stuff, just because it looked interesting. I also started to sublet my living room, so I soon had some money on the side. Even I have to admit, I wasn’t prepared for the prices for accommodation in Bologna…

The most stressing problem was actually finding a flat for a decent price. Or a room. Or a shared room. My requirements dropped very fast. Now I am in an AirBnB, sharing a room with a guy, who I barely see. Could be worse. But it needed some days till we actually told us our names, because when we see each other, we don’t really talk. Mostly it is in the morning after just waking up. We both tend to get out of bed, take a shower, dress and go. The other guy who is renting the place I see more often, but there is not much more talking either. It’s like we don’t know what to say to each other.

What I don’t really like on my living situation is that the landlord (some student who somehow has two flats, from which he rent some beds over AirBnB) already rented my bed to someone else because of a fair in march. For now I am fine with the place, but probably I should think about finding a different place.

My living room in Berlin I sublet to two young women. One was already there since September, the other one arrived after my departure. In Berlin it is quite easy to find someone who needs a place. I just hope there won’t be any problems while I am away. Right now I pay more for a shared room than the girls for each room, and they don’t have to share. I miss my privacy. I am used of sleeping in Hostels and all that, but having no room just for myself for four months… that is a quite new experience. And sometimes I am like “Oh, I am too old for that shit.”

Another problem I had was the health insurance. Since I stopped working, my health insurance isn’t payed from my employer anymore and because I won’t searching a job in Germany the Agency for Work won’t cover it either. Fair enough. I slowly got jealous for students under 25, because they’re able to stay in the family health insurance for free, as long they don’t earn too much own money. As long as I stay registered in Germany (which I want, to keep my flat) I need health insurance and to continue it is better than an interrupted one. The costs though, are half of my actual rent every month. I was thinking to marry someone just to get into the family health insurance… okay, not seriously, but still..

Another big issue was of course the language, but about that, I’ll tell you the next time!

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Why I do this Blog

You’ll read in that blog about my experiences during an exchange semester in Bologna and how my age (I am 33) helped me in some situations and made things more difficult in others. I think it is important to speak about that. Most students do that kind of experience when they are 10 or more years younger, which has some pros but because I was so nervous before my departure I also want to encourage woman who are like me. Not in the 20s anymore but because they weren’t able to do earlier, want to try out living abroad for a while. Of course some posts will be interesting for woman (and perhaps even men) in any age, who like to do such a thing, and I hope some just read it for entertaining issues (and some to find out what the hell I am doing), but my main focus right now is to make it easier for women in their 30s to do such a big step.

When you are a woman and turn 30, society still has the expectations that you should get marry (when not happened before) and get children. Or at least to have a nice career you follow. And some of us are quite happy to do the one thing or the other, but not all. Some of us have the feeling there is another life waiting for us but we may perhaps don’t know what kind of life this will be. I belong to that kind of women. I had a good job with some prospects, but it didn’t felt right, so I started university. I had a fiancé and a date for the wedding, but it didn’t felt right. Now I am 33, still student, because I work a lot next to my studies which slows me down, and started the biggest adventure of my life: living abroad. And guess what, it feels like the right thing to do.

This Blog is for women like me. I hope I can inspire one or two to fulfill their dreams, even when they have the feeling, they could be too old. In the end, it is only a number in a passport and we live much longer than we used hundreds of years before, so why should we not try out something new when we are in our 30s? Why settle at that age? Or at 40 or 50 or however old you are. When you’re still able to move around, go out in the world and see it. You never know when it is too late. I did it, it was not easy to get out of the comfort zone, but I made it and I am feeling great. And even if I wouldn’t, at least I would have tried.

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How did I ended up here?

I really don’t know how to start this series, I have the feeling there is so much I need to explain first. So perhaps that’s how it starts. My story how I ended up being 33, still in university and now doing an exchange semester, which has the reputation of partying all the time. Believe me, I feel my age.

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